Underneath.

So I’ve been given a so-called, overrated “space” by someone I dearly love. I do not ever intend to ask for this space however I realized that I really do need it. Thanks. I know it for sure that a few hours from now, this space would expire.

It’s been a year since we started “dating”. We met because I joined an organization wherein he was already part of. I never expected (as if anyone would?) that I would come to this point of loving someone almost like a brother.


Love is more than just “the spark” or “the chemistry”, in my own opinion I say love is... a continuous learning experience. Love is giving time and space. Love knows how to sacrifice, it knows when and where to place itself. Love is not always a pretty sight; it can be hurtful, morbid and even tragic.


I’d like to quote singer/songwriter Taylor Swift; “Love is fearless”


I think love for our sibling/s is one of the toughest loves to endure. This may not apply to everyone, but it does to me. Take for example having a sibling who’s greater than you are, who has gotten all the attention from your parents or relatives, who receives higher remarks, or someone you couldn’t stand because of the things he/she does that is not parallel to yours. Learning to embrace these differences and breaking the walls of pride are the challenges in line in order to truly appreciate and love a sibling with neither envy nor disgust. And this also applies to our love for our friends, and future life partners.

That's why I think that to love is not because of, but in spite of. It is not supposed to be just a fleeting moment that one could consider "past" after realizing that the "spark" has been blown away. I may sound idealistic. But these are my reasons why I am so meticulous when it comes to defining what love should and shouldn’t be.


My dearly love has never reached yet, the kind of love I give to my brothers. Well of course I am aware of the fact that “brotherly love” is different from a “romantic love”. But how else could one define love if it remains stiff on the pedestal of “the variety of love” category. Love should be flexible, it is not defined by mere standards, and it has complexities that will be further understood if we decide to break the barriers. Why do two strangers fall in love? Spark? Pleasure? Chemistry? Compatibility? Or the star signs say so?

Why do they break up? Differences? Infidelities? Bored?

I don’t want to speak anything more than my personal experience of love, for we all have variations to consider. I can even talk about it and create a whole blogsite dedicated for LOVE. Perhaps love is just a word, without God, without US putting meaning to it, it is never meant to do anything.


"Somewhere weakness is our strength."
-Paramore; Let The Flames Begin